5 keys to implement change in our life!
By Nathalie Ekobo, MA., MS., LMT

We all know the saying: "If you always do what you do, you will always get what you got!". So, in other words, if you want better results in your life, you'd better change!

We all tend to think that if we need to change one day because of circumstances, we will. We believe we are fairly "rational" and "logical" people. Things have to "make sense" and when they do, there will be an undeniable fact and reason that will force us to take action to change. Research shows that nine persons out of ten, finding themselves in a difficult situation that would force them to change, do not change.

If we look at diseases, job situations or social patterns that would require us to change, we all know or have heard about one person that could not stop smoking even after being diagnosed with cancer, another person who continued unhealthy working patterns that got them fired, and the list of repeat offenders in the criminal justice system is here to prove that getting out of a pattern is not so easy!

Here are 5 keys to implement successful changes in your life!

Key #1: Find clarity on what you want to change. If you don't have a clear picture of what the new habit looks like, chances are you won't go there! To get your new picture, always start from what you don't like (belief, pattern, habit,) and decide what you want to change it into and how. Then, create your plan, your road map to get there!

Among my Clear Coaching™ clients, I have seen some real transformations: from abdicating their personal power away to staying now fully in their power in any given situation; from having to control everything, to allowing more trust in life and developing more intuition; from being single and feeling lonely to being happily married; from being frustrated and feeling miserable and poor in a job or individual practice, to having a successful small business that produces a deep sense of fulfillment, additional time and more money. Each time, my clients had to analyze their patterns and choose new ones that would serve them better. There is no way to skip this first step!

Key # 2: Hire efficient support. The road may be long. You will experience resistance to change. Your mind (yes, mine too! ;)) wants to protect yourself so it makes you think a lot of things such as "now is not the time!", "you don't really need to change", "you have done it for so long", and more (See key #4)! In order to be efficient and to implement change with more EASE (you know I am all about that!), less struggle, and total success, you need help! Once and for all, reduce your ego and accept help. You don't have to do it on your own! There is no prize for struggling in the dark and overcoming everything by yourself! These are old patterns, old ways of thinking. First, it is more FUN to have assistance and guidance to create your plan and strategies to change, rather than feeling lonely; and second, you need to keep your FOCUS and stay on track. A professional coach (like me J) can bring the support you need to accomplish your transformation. There are many ways to do it, group or individual coaching, different packages with or without email support; and I always blend in some SRT clearing for quicker results! Contact me for more information on how I can serve you.

Key # 3: Practice, Practice, Practice! It takes repetition to change a pattern or behavior. Some people say repeating a new way of doing things or a newly acquired belief for 21 days will make it a habit; others (and I am among them) tend to be more conservative and prone longer repetition to really solidify the new pattern. For subconscious beliefs, there is this fabulous tool from Robert Detzler called the "clearing statements" that help you wash the old belief out of your subconscious mind; just one Clear Coaching™ session looking at the beliefs you want to 'dump' (such as "I have to work hard to make money!") would help you create a clean state where you can now design and build the new life you really deserve!

Key # 4: Shut you 'Inner Terrorist' up! Your 'inner terrorist' is here to sabotage yourself either because you feel unworthy or because your mind is 'acting up'. Remember that our minds always want to keep the status quo, to carry on what exists in order to protect us from ...changing! Stop the inner voice telling you that you cannot do it. Take a deep breath and gently push away your thoughts and reframe them. You will always find reasons and excuses not to change. They will pop up in your mind and you may even confuse them with your intuition! Believe me, I speak from experience! To fight transformation, you will tell yourself: "I don't have time...", "I don't have money...", "I don't have the skills or talent", "I don't deserve...", "I don't feel it is for me now", "I am too busy", "why change, I have done this for 30 years, I am doomed anyway." The motive you will give is exactly the reason why you NEED to implement this change now. Get another perspective, a new fresh one! Seeing the world differently always help to change! That is also the role of a coach. You may be stuck in some old patterns, repeating old ways of thinking/being/having/doing, not even recognizing that some of them are not serving you anymore. With a few potent questions your coach will 'teleport' you on the other side of your actual world. Looking at your life from this perspective you now find out new aspects, new dimensions, and are ready for a new vision and for a transformation.

Key # 5: Celebrate your achievements! Be happy with all your progress and celebrate the milestones as well as your final transformation. Acknowledging all your successes and accomplishments will invariably lead you to create more success, confidence and elevate your self-esteem.

Some changes will lead you to realize more changes, which may guide you to a mini-revolution. Don't panic, breathe through the renovation! Don't let the FEAR OF SUCCESS annihilate your efforts. Just think and trust that it may well be what your soul needed right now. When, in fact, your mind thought just the opposite! And work with your coach on dissolving once and for all your Fear of Success.

That could be your best idea for working on changing a patter this year: Removing the fear of success; Going from "I cannot live 24/7 in Greatness" to experiencing each and every minute of your life success with ease, grace and joy, a little like if you were walking on pink clouds, going with the flow, or 'paddling downstream'.

You are capable of amazing things! Every day in working with people I see the power of believing in yourself and believing in your goals.

Don't let your mind, your inner terrorist or anybody else, tell you otherwise! You deserve total LOVE, HARMONY, PEACE, HEALTH, and SUCCESS. And that is what I wish for YOU in this New Year!

Greatness is within you! Let me assist you to remove a couple of obstacles, a few old patterns and some subconscious beliefs that are blocking your total success.

Remember, if your dream, your goals are important to you, it's important to get the right kind of support. Your healths, your relationships, your happiness, your career/business, are all worth investing in. You DESERVE a change! Make the choice NOW to make 2008 your best year ever!

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